Meet Nalani York
I got really good at being the woman everybody needed. Then I started wondering what I wanted.
For years, I was the woman who handled things. I built a career in tech, led teams, was a good wife, raised my son, solved problems, showed up for people, and figured shit out when things didn’t go according to plan. I looked capable because I was capable. I’m proud of that woman. She got me through some things.
I’m 47, and here’s something I’ve been thinking about lately. You can spend half your life being really fucking good at things you never stopped to ask yourself if you actually wanted to keep doing.
Somewhere in midlife, I started asking different questions. Who was I outside of being a wife, mother, professional, or the person everybody could count on?
What changed
Turns out, there was a whole lot of me I hadn’t met yet.
My changes weren’t some dramatic overnight reinvention. They happened as I started paying closer attention to what I liked, what I wanted, and what interested me. Corporate Nalani had her “professional” wardrobe. I went from stilettos to fly tennis shoes. These days, I’m more bohemian chic, and still getting shit done.
My relationship with my personal style changed because my relationship with other people’s opinions changed. My own path into deeper self-understanding changed the way I saw work, relationships, my brain, my body, my style, ambition and what it means to trust myself.
Along the way, I started wondering what I liked when I wasn’t trying to meet somebody else’s expectations. So, I started exploring. I loc’d my hair. Got more tattoos, questioned beliefs I’d held for decades, and developed a curiosity about life that I wish I’d given myself permission to explore sooner. In all of that, I stopped feeling the need to explain every decision I made.
I started picking up books about subjects I wouldn’t have considered years ago. I learned how much I enjoy being outdoors, spending time in nature, and exploring wellness experiences like sound baths, meditation, and mindful practices. It’s freeing to be unapologetically me.
Funny How Life Will Introduce You to Yourself
I’m a proud Buddhist. Finding my spiritual home has been one of the most profound chapters of my self-discovery. I didn’t arrive here overnight. It took years of patient researching, asking hard questions, and learning to listen closely to what actually resonated with my soul. What’s wild to me is that helping my son with his religious studies assignment introduced me to a spiritual path that would become such a vital part of my life. True self-understanding required me to stop performing, discover my own alignment, and find the confidence to live it out loud, even if it’s not traditional.
I know I’m not the only woman asking these questions.
Maybe you’ve built a whole life around being responsible, showing up, and handling shit. Lately, you’ve started wondering what you actually want.
That’s why I created SoulHaus. I’m still figuring things out myself, but I’m sharing what I’ve learned so you can start exploring what feels right for you.
Come see what I’ve put together for you.
Look closer.
Look again. That’s not just a butterfly.
It’s a woman meeting herself.
The woman you’ve been. The woman you are. The woman you’re still getting to know.
Welcome to SoulHaus. We’ve got some shit to talk about.